Death is part of life

In the past few months, there have been a number of deaths among extended family or friends. While in most cases it was expected, the death of someone you love is hard. Michele’s Uncle Donny died while only in his 50s, of cancer. My Uncle John came really close to death but thankfully is recovering. Someone I’ve known all my life as Aunt Lona, although not really my aunt but a distant relative by marriage, also died. Aunt Lona was in her 80s. Although I last saw her a very long time ago, I can still picture Aunt Lona, with her striking white hair, her piercing eyes, and her tanned face with its prominent cheekbones (she was part Native American). Staying at her house was an adventure in part because she lived in one of my favorite places in the world (Montana) near the entrance to Glacier National Park. I remember us reading the Kalispell, Montana newspaper to find stories about grizzly bears (I think my parents even subscribed to the newspaper for a while). In my mind’s eye she always wore an apron and was always busy about the kitchen.

Late last night my mother called us to tell us that a close friend, also in her 80s and someone whom I’ve known since I was a little kid, had died just a few hours before. Dorothy and her sister, Betty, never married and lived together all their lives. They were like aunts to us kids and they doted on us (and many others). I have so many happy memories of visiting them or staying at their house. Dorothy always wore dresses, while Betty prefered blouses and skirts. When talking about them with others who hadn’t met them yet, we sometimes referred to them as Dorothy Dress and Betty Blouse as a way of telling them apart. Dorothy and Betty lived to serve others. Dorothy did the cleaning while Betty took care of the cooking. They cared for countless visitors, never complaining, always happy to serve. Their house was a haven of good food, candies, toys for the kids, and other treats. I am very sad about her death but at the same time, glad that she is at rest, forever free from any more pain or suffering in her body, finally able to enjoy her heavenly reward. I wonder how her sister, Betty, will fare.

As I fell asleep last night, aside from the grief I felt at the news, the thought that was running through my mind was that death is part of life. We all have to face death. Those who put their faith in Jesus Christ have the promise of eternal life; death has no power over them any more. I was thinking, too, of Jesus’s promise that He has prepared a place for us with Him. “I am going there to prepare a place for you,” that’s what he told His disciples (John 14:2-4). I am comforted by this assurance. Nearly every day I think of my father, who died unexpectedly almost four years ago, as well as my maternal grandparents, all of whom are in their places that have been prepared for them, enjoying His presence.

Shingles hell, shingles hell, shingles all the way…

A week ago I started having some sharp pain in my upper back and right shoulder. I shrugged it off as simple muscle pain, maybe from sleeping in my usual twisted position after the kids started piling into the bed with us the night before. (We need a king-size bed; a queen-size bed just doesn’t cut it anymore.) But the pain kept getting worse each day, and on Tuesday, I noticed that it started going down my arm. Wednesday, I went to see my doctor. He thought the pain could be from a pinched nerve in my neck, but then caught site of a small reddish patch of skin on my right inner elbow that had appeared overnight. He diagnosed shingles and dosed me up with medicines including an anti-inflammatory, an anti-viral, and a pain killer. Sure enough, over the next few days my arm, up to my shoulder and down to my wrist, “bloomed” with gross, and painful, splotches of shingles. For a while I was worried that it’d continue up the right side of my face. If anyone who reads this has ever had shingles, you, and only you, will be able to fully sympathize with how difficult they can be to handle. Those who are familiar with scripture might remember Job, one of my favorite characters in the whole Bible, and how he suffered with a painful and irritating skin condition during his time of trials. Was his affliction a form of shingles? If so, I have more sympathy for him now than ever.

It’s been quite a discouraging thing, in all honesty. From what my doctor said and also from what I’ve read about it on the Internet, the occurrence of shingles is somewhat unusual at my age (usually, it hits people who are 50 and over), and it is very likely that it was caused in my case by an immune system that continues to be weak, more than a year after hospitalizations for meningitis and other complications. The burden has been especially heavy for Michele in caring for the kids and all, since I’ve been unable to do much of anything for several days. I love my dear wife so much!

Teaching an online course

Today is a sad and troubling day because Michele and I heard from my mom that my sister-in-law, Linda, is very sick again and hospitalized for intense pain in her stomach region. She spent two weeks in hospital about four months ago for similar pain and had an operation to clear up intestinal adhesions. Now we wonder if that really is the problem or not. She is in surgery as I write this and we are praying for her and my brother Tim, as well as their children. Fortunately Linda’s parents are over here from Great Britain and staying with them right now. I’m regressing into feeling worse again with this cold or whatever it is, and it looks like Tristan has come down with it, too, judging by his runny nose and general crabbiness. Today I accepted an offer to teach a course this fall as an adjunct professor at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign Graduate School of Library and Information Science in their distance education curriculum, known as LEEP. It’ll be a great experience but it scares me to death as I’ve never done something like this before. Just the thought of developing a syllabus is awfully intimidating!